If we learn to sense the seismic shifts in the undercurrent of our feelings, we can move from reaction to response. Rather than hiding our vulnerability, we can really turn up, albeit inept, clumsy and bruised, and co-create the return to safety.
Becoming a beauty-full person rests on an artistry of selfhood that takes both practice and discipline. We don’t arrive in life fully formed with mature awareness and elegance in contact. Over our life span we refine how we relate to others and how we relate to ourselves.
In Gestalt the foundational touchstone of our work is contact. I am interested to support you make contact with the most perplexing, unnameable, mysterious parts of your existence. We can hold together the unknowing, the knowing without form, or understanding beyond thinking.
Dying is an embodied process. It has recognisable stages, and a discernible progression. There is a perceivable pattern. No matter what you are dying from, your death process has a formation, a sequence experienced by all.
There is a whole economy based on the purchase of our attention. Big Tech is driving your engagement, they are steering your attention toward things that they choose.
We have lost depth. We don’t know how to stay with something. To funnel energy and attention downwards. In my role as a therapist, this is one of my most consistent tasks with the people I sit with.
To voyage across time and space, to reach out to another person, to sense the journey that led them to here, to be with how something that happened long ago feels right here right now, is the art of the therapy.
The depth of our personal aesthetic is influenced by others and created over a lifetime. Our inner world continuously meets the outer world.
Our habits to defend what we believe are laid down firmly and learned very early, and our biological defence systems when we feel threatened are powerful motivators for protective action.
I believe it is important to not lose sight of how playfulness can be a tender-hearted assistant. It is not making light of the experience or situation, but it can tease apart some aspects of experience that get tightly bound or fused together.
